Letting go

Sunday, 9 November 2014

One of the most painful things we have to do in our lives is to let go.

Sometimes it is the letting go of... material things which mean a lot to us, even if only sentimental value. It may mean the letting go of feelings. When we hold sadness inside, and try to mask it with only a show of happiness, it wounds us, and we automatically create a wall, or a barrier to protect ourselves. Indeed, it is better to let go and sometimes a good cry can be cleansing.

Sometimes, we have to let go of someone we care for very deeply when we realize that person does not care for us in the same way. Maybe it is best to leave them remembering us with whatever feelings or memories that they have of us. It may not be possible to hide our own deeper feelings for that person, which could make their life uncomfortable. Letting go may be the best gift we can give them because they may realize how we feel, yet care enough not to want to do anything about it.

At the end of the day, holding on to it just makes us affect ourselves.

Even when we know a relationship is not right, on both sides, or one person has a doubt about it, it is hard to let go of something that seems secure. We often accept less than the best because we can’t bear to let go.

There are occasions when we feel something wonderful, but don’t express it for fear of being rejected. Yet, what if we withhold it from the one person who could very well be the one that needs it the most and they too have been afraid to express their true feelings, or don’t even realize their true feelings yet? How sad that we may miss opportunities like these for fear of rejection.

Whatever the reason, or situation, it is never easy letting go.

Letting go doesn't necessarily mean giving up, but it means knowing that everything in life has a beginning and an end, and it doesn't last forever because change is constant. Once you realize that and you know something in your life has reached it's destination or has served its purpose, the time has come for you to let go and move on to greater things.

Letting go hasn't been all that easy for me throughout my entire life, but I know that at the end of the day, either I was forced to let go, or I just ploughed my way through. It isn't easy that's for sure, but that's how we grow, when we are hard-pressed on each side, pushed down, and then we struggle to find the strength to push back, all the way till we overcome it.

That's when we know; we're in a new phase.

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